Hi Mel...I am so sorry for happened to you...was there no one you could ask for help?oh God I can answer that myself...a big fat NO...I was bullied by the bif girls and also the house parent..she was cruel..did not like us to enjoy ourselves..and now some girls meet up with her and celebrate her birthday..she is 90...god knows how she has lived so long...the sad part everyone has forgotten what she was like..I never will...but I am fine with a husband and 2 great kids..sorry again for what happened to you...those boys will get what is coming to them...take care..
Im glad your worried about the kids in my school .
Go ahead and write ,I will email you the address .
If we cant change the way the school treats the kids ,Im sure a NON OGB can do it ......There are to many deep sad /dark secrets that need to be in the open .
I don't quite understand what you wrote, "add your topics in the Non DGH forum". Anyway, I will try it later and see if I get it right.
I am wondering if the teachers or educators at the Home know about the matter. If they do, they should protect the little kids from being abused or bullied. If they don't, then we should let them know. It is a nightmare if this terrible thing keep going on....can we write to the school?
jenny thanks for joining us here , as I know your a supporter of the Homes .
please add your topics and episodes in the NON DGH /OGB forum
anyways coming back to what you wrote , I to feel sad for the poor kids who cant fight back ,and its really heart breaking to listen to their stories .
many people want to help the Homes ,but not many people want to make things right and actually take care of the kids . Melvinn
It made me heartache when I read this story.I could imagine how helpless you were during that time.I truly hope that the kids who are now staying at Grahams home will no longer encounter such terrible thing. I am also grateful to God that you have become a stronger person after going through a lot of difficulties in life.Thank you for sharing this with us, Melvinn!You are dearly loved!
Back in the days when I was a little boy ,I can still remember I was in class 1. From wales Lodge I was sent to Scottish canadain cottage .
As a little boy I quess I was cute , and the cuteness made me a prime target for the big boys .At first they used to make us carry all their books after tea ,then when we got back to cottage made us wash their dirty filthy socks . And if you ever tried to say anything or complain to Dhairi or thaje they would hit you so hard .I remember I once tried to complain ,and after that these big boys got me and hung me up in the scottish toilets ( just above the toilet pots )and they hit me in my stomach and we had to hang on ,if we let go we would fall into a bucket of water . This went on for months and years .
Then the bulling wasnt satisfying them ,they started sexually abusing we small kids . Man every night we had to go to their bed after the lights went out and we had to engage in sexual activities ,and if we didnt do what they told us we would be flogged .( I was the prime target )
( Names Not Mentioned) These three guys abused me sexually ,raped me ,forced and bullied me so badly that when I left the homes ,I was suffering from a behavior problem,with nightmares that yu can never imagine . They took away my food sometimes ,took away my tuck ,took away my childhood ,took away my identity .
My class 1 teacher used to always complain that I was sleeping in class ,she didnt know that every night these big boys were making me do things that I cant put it in words .
But when I grew up ,I never hit a student ,or bullied any one .I grew up to be a big boy ,and as yu know being big in the homes is a good advantage,but I never used it .I was kind ,fun and my friends loved me .
Now that Im a man ,Im healed ,by the blessing of God and with time and patiences Ill get better and better .I cant say Im better 100% yes the memories are still there but its fading and I have moved on in life to be a successful man and reach out to people and help and support them .
